Homeschool Burnout
Workshop Notes
Thank you for joining me!
Below are the notes + resources from the workshop
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How do you know if you’re burnt out?
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manifest as stress, exhaustion, depression, anger, anxiety, panic attacks, resentment
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What in you is being triggered?
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If it’s not bearing good fruit, it’s not God.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us,
fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.
For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame,
and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Hebrew 12: 1-2
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HE is the author and perfector of your faith
and your children’s faith.
Not you. And not the curriculum.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him, and we will make straight your paths.
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Body/Soul/Spirit (represented in the design of the Temple)
Body - our physical being (brain, processing, mental/chemical issues, hormones, etc)
Soul - our mind, will and emotions
Spirit - where we commune with God, our "intuition", the place of knowing inside our hearts.
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What to do when burnout starts:
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Identify - is it actually homeschool burnout or something else?
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Trauma
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Marriage
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Habit Training/behavior
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Trauma
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Disillusioned?
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Flesh?
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comparison
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Frustration
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Is it your method vs. your system?
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Is it an over reach and you’re the showman of the universe?
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“We ought to do so much for our children, and are able to do so much for them, that we begin to think everything rests with us and that we should never intermit for a moment our conscious action on the young mind and hearts about us. Our endeavors become fussy and restless. We are too much with our children, ‘late and soon.’ We try to dominate them too much, even when we fail to govern, and we are unable to perceive that wise and purposeful letting alone is the best part of education.” (3/27-28)
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Masterly Inactivity
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Masterly inactivity “indicates the power to act, the desire to act, and the insight and self-restraint which forbid action.” (3/28)
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“…see without watching, know without telling, be on the alert always, yet never obviously, fussily, so. This open-eyed attitude must be sphinx-like in its repose. The children must know themselves to be let alone, whether to do their own duty or to seek their own pleasure. The constraining power should be present, but passive, so that the child may not feel himself hemmed in without choice.” (3/31)
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Taking undue responsibility for their learning
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“…parental relationship and of that authority which belongs to it, by right and by nature, acts upon the children as do sunshine and shower on a seed in good soil. But the fussy parent, the anxious parent, the parent who explains overmuch, who commands overmuch, who excuses overmuch, who restrains overmuch, who interferes overmuch, even the parent who is with the children overmuch, does away with dignity and simplicity of that relationship…” (3/29)
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Fear of THEIR failure
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“One of the features, and one of the disastrous features, of modern society, is that, in our laziness, we depend upon prodders and encourage a vast system of prodding.” I would say things are worse today than she could have imagined. I have reminders on my phone for every last little thing! Almost more important to our topic, however, is the fact that the “more we are prodded the lazier we get, and the less capable of the effort of will which should carry [us] to, and nearly carry us through, our tasks.” (3/39-40)
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We worry about performance and what others will think of our child
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Recalibrate with your spouse
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Stop "doing school"
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Switch books
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De-school
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Plan a break but don’t take it yet
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Are you getting outside enough?
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Enlist help (outside tutors, grandparents/friends, videos)
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Lean towards more independence
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Get an outside perspective (are you doing enough? Too much?)
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Mental health takes precedence
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RESOURCES
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